Pregnancy & Infant Loss:

A Silent Suffering

The Statistics

Pregnancy is most likely the single most life-changing experience of a woman’s life. For most women, as soon as that second line appears, her heart changes and grows in ways she never thought possible. She is forever changed from that point forward because she has now transitioned from simply being a woman, to becoming a mother. Her days are spent planning and dreaming of all the things that this new little life will bring… names, clothes, nursery decor, bottles, diapers, & bibs… But, unfortunately, for one in every four women, this dream is shattered.

According to the US Department of Health and Human Services, about one million pregnancies each year end in some type of loss. Approximately 10%-25% of all known pregnancies will end in miscarriage (loss before 20 weeks gestation) alone. In addition to these losses during pregnancy, about 24,000 babies die during infancy (first year of life) each year.

While pregnancy and infant loss does not affect every woman in the exact same way, it most certainly has a very serious impact on each woman that is unfortunate enough to endure it. Research shows that miscarriages, even those that occur early in the pregnancy, take a huge emotional toll on both women and men that experience it. Research also tells us that parents have an equally strong, and most often times an even greater reaction, to stillbirth, as families struggle to cope and wade through tremendous amounts of grief “for years and even sometimes decades”. And the sad reality is, both women and men often face this heartache alone, in silence, lacking the resources and support they so desperately need.

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The Need For Support

With all the emotions and grief to sort through, parents need support now more than ever. But, for loved ones, helping a friend or family member experiencing pregnancy and infant loss can be very tricky. Without proper education and training in bereavement, most just simply do not know what to say (or not say) or what to do to help. And oftentimes, and with the best of intentions, family and friends say things that make grieving families feel even worse. This specific type of loss (pregnancy & infant loss) is unique and much more complicated than any other, and there are many aspects of it that most cannot even imagine. That is why support from professionals specifically trained and certified in bereavement is essential.

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How We Can Help

Our Certified Birth & Bereavement Doulas are highly skilled and uniquely trained in how to gently guide grieving families through every aspect of the pregnancy, birth, and postpartum periods when a loss occurs. We are specifically trained to: prepare families for the birth, comfort families through the labor & delivery process, facilitate bonding and memory making with baby, assist in making funeral arrangements, help mothers when their milk comes in, and even coach them on how to react when people ask the tough questions like “what happened to your baby?'“ We are also there to provide any additional resources and referrals they may need. .

Are you currently experiencing a pregnancy loss?

Contact us to schedule your doula consultation now.

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